Especially during the christmas and family time, one thing often comes to my mind.
Whenever I work for several months quite intensively, even though I may be more or less passionate about them, I get into a more robotic mode, where things just “have to function properly” and the beauty of things often gets lost. This includes emotions every so often. There is a saying, stating “eventually, all decisions are made from gut feeling”, which is why you should Continue reading The Importance of Feeling Alive
While I lived in Hamburg I have been giving friends a tour of the city quite frequently. Since I do not live there at the moment (to give tours) but people ask me to give them “a list of what they should see” I figured I could make a central one here. If you have anything to add that people should see – just let me know! 🙂
This is going to (obviously) be a longer post. It might also be interesting for people who just want to get to know more about the city. In general the city seems rather relaxed although it has 1,7 Million inhabitants! You definitely don’t feel the stress that you would expect at this size! 🙂
I just watched the movie “machine gun preacher” and besides it being an intense movie based on true events, it also raised another consideration again in me. The main character is helping kids in Sudan against the by-now-famous Kony and LRA, but he is mainly also torn between his family back home and his “new family” in Sudan.
As several of you might know I have already been in several different countries around the globe for a longer time – the US (Texas), Togo and Brazil for a year each. Often people say that it must be quite awesome to get to travel that much. But there are also some rather longer-term downsides. I by no means want to leave the impression that they outweigh the benefits, but they seem to be not so visible to the non-travellers. I already explained the potential loss of a “home” to come back to in another post. It might also have the aspect that you have several homes and obviously you cannot be in all at once – with all the friends you made there.
But I am not talking about the direct impact, like getting Malaria or being stuck in bureaucratic processes – which make life rather more interesting!
Just take relationships e.g., which either become long distance or take longer to build up in my experience – since they often evolve in environments where you are comfortable and can be yourself, which takes a while in new environments. And when you have finally found somebody – they tend to have the same passion as you and are thus probably abroad once you finally got some time back home. 😛 But obviously there are also some good side about it as this blog posts beautifully states – “date a girl that travels“. Of course you can also take somebody with you during the journey – but also that has pros and cons. 🙂
Then, depending on how much you travel, your best friends might be all over the world, in different time zones and difficult to visit again (although it becomes easier and cheaper to travel these days).
Personality and Understanding
You also change a bit every time you leave, which is not a bad thing in itself, but it may become more problematic blending in again. I always need some internationality in my life now (which is easily served by further travelling and studying an international master), but it also becomes more difficult for people to understand you sometimes. Especially family.
My mother has also already been backpacking in India in the 70ies, hitch-hiking around France with sometimes just about 23 cents left in her pocket, being robbed in Paris under the bridge and asking via collect call for more money from home. She was also hosting international students at her house later, so I think so got the same bug I did, but still sometimes it becomes difficult to really grasp what I am telling her. Might also be due to parents and their kids having generation differences, but still …
For more impressions on this topic also read other interesting blog posts (not by me):
They provide some insights from a constant traveller / nomad. I personally still love more to have a place that I can call home and do not just “check up on” as some other people have the tendency to do after they have been abroad for too long – they simply cannot settle anywhere for a longer time anymore but “have to keep going”. It gives me the impression that the beforementioned blogger already has the tendency to do so. It took me several years abroad and also some good talks with e.g. children of diplomats (that have to change the country every 3-5 years) to see how much I want to be mobile and where I draw my limits. Right now I see that I want to at least have a fixed place called “home” that I can and do come back to at least every week on average. But obviously it also depends on whom I call my family – a wife and such – that I want to be closest to. If they are there it does not really matter all that much …
Sometimes your life might also change forever after your experiences – but then mostly for the better. 🙂 Check out this blogpost if you want to travel just for some time and then get back on track and really do your thing …
Did you have similar experiences? Did I miss something? Do you have questions? Let me know in the comments! Looking forward to hearing from you! 🙂
So I hopped over to London to visit family, my coach and friends. I have been a bit around the globe, but one thing still struck me odd:
Driving on the left.
Obviously I had already heard about it but forgotten about it when arriving at the airport at 7 am after having just spent the entire previous night trying to sleep at another airport!
I got onto the bus and actually got the seat in the very front with a clear view ahead!
This can be quite refreshing / shocking / awakening at once but then you probably adopt to it. Or so I thought. Because it is part of a lot of subtleties as well! Obviously you overtake also on the left, you walk on the left side of the street (if not too many tourists make you feel on the wrong side of the road whatever side you are on!), the metro (/tube) leaves to the left and not the right. Every time I had to think AGAIN!! Nothing normal! But then – what is normal?
“Being normal is boring. Be yourself and LIVE!” ~me 😉
A lot of people ask me why I go to a crazy party called carnival. How much do you actually know about it? Do you know the Nubbelburning in Cologne? The Zulu King at Mardi Gras in Lousiana? The Sons of Ghandi in Salvador, Brazil? If not, here come some insights that might be new for you. 😉 Continue reading Carnival in different countries
For about 3 years now I have a personal coach and he has definitely brought me forward! We do not talk every day but still every once in a while.
He does not provide me with answers but rather the right questions to come to conclusions by myself. There have been several bigger crossroads in my life in these 3 years that have been heavily influenced that way. He lives in the UK but works in different countries, soon being Mongolia! When we talk, it works over Skype and upon needs rather on short notice. I also just met him physically again last week – yay! Once again, it was a very interesting and insightful evening that both of us enjoyed. Before I met him physically in Brazil in 2008 and in Malaysia in 2009.
After now already posting about ‘Preparing for Job that does not exist yet‘ (where I described what my dream job lookes like and how I got to find it) I also want to stress the importance of living your dream! I am doing it as you maybe have already discovered in the aforementioned post. It took me some 5 years to know ever more exactly what I do NOT want. This helped me in becoming more clear in my goal but does not mean I became more narrow minded – quite the opposite! I learned to listen and embrace others and it is in my opinion more important to be inspired than to inspire. Otherwise you will soon become too fond of yourself. 😉 “Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish!” as Steve Jobs quoted. And that is what I do.
Not everything I try out succeeds right away. Sometimes taken new paths can be painful. Successes are what motivates us but hardships bring us forward and shape our character. So it is not only about finding your dream job but also finding yourself! But more on those in some other posts …
While I am currently still on my way there are some people who already are done with the safe haven of studying and the like and make a living based on their ideas. So f*** yeah – I even brought some great examples who can also bring YOU forward! 😀