“Take risks: If you win, you will be happy; if you lose, you will be wise.”
So a new year has started! Do you have new year’s resolutions? 🙂
Thinking about this brought up some thoughs on a particular topic in me.
There are two major ways to go through life. Being optimistic, being pessimistic. Ok, maybe still not caring, but I hope you have a stand on life.
There are several different studies (like “The Anti-Antagonist: Conflict and Attitude”) that prove that the personal attitude determines your actions, even your success and also whether life makes or breakes you!
(Are you the carrot, coffee or egg type? :))
So coming to the point of
The *Brutal* Optimist
There are people who are pessimists, optimists and realists. I am an optimist but even more so one that in very dire times says “I am not dead yet so it is O.K. – it could be worse”. This does not mean that I am a daydreamer – I always still strive for more. It is part of the “be-happy-with-what-you-have-and-yet-strive-for-more”-attitude, which lets me have a happy life (at peace) but still goes for more. You are most successful and happy when you are not stressed and approach things with a positive attitude.
(TED Video by Tony Robbins on the Power of Positive Choices)
Solution vs Problem-oriented
Entailed with this comes also the approach of being solution- and not problem oriented. Do what you can with what you have. Now! There is still time to learn about the mistakes that happened on the way here, but for the moment why mourn things you do not have? Rather get to action and make the best out of the situation and now! That also keeps stress away and can be quite satisfying. 🙂
The challenge really is to not become a daydreamer or unrealistic and also not bitter, but when you have been through some hardships yourself you probably know what I am talking about. I am grateful for having had situations that tested me and made me realize where I want to go – and where not. (Hence the quote at the beginning of this article). See things as challenges, not problems. Do you really want to live your life? Try this one! Here is also another one who took this attitude (post in German). 🙂
It took me some time to actively get there but today I am quite happy with the result and can only recommend it to everyone. How about you? Would this work for you or something different? Let me know in the comments! 🙂